And the results are in...

My poll has now finished (thank you if you voted) the consensus is that using a dating site to fulfill any type of carnal desire should be used as a last resort if you're desperate.... hmmmm, I tend to agree. You would not believe some of the numpties that have sent me messages via the service on the site I'm on! I ended up changing my settings so that I only got messages of no less than 50 words for instance.

And if they were written in text speak, well, no chance! I didn't want to have to employ a child to decipher any messages! But it amazed me at how many people do it. And not just on the dating site. In general! One guy was chatting to me via the IM and he said, 

"Can I hv ur phne no. pls?"

No you can't. Feck off! If I'm not even worth the extra vowels then why on Gods earth should I bother. Maybe I'm just being naive and I'm not a hardened internet dating 'type' - but contacting me and asking for my phone number straight away just because I have the manners to reply to your initial message....!?! Well to be frank ladies, it left me cold on more than one occasion. I want some smooooze, to feel like I have something in common with the person, I want you to make me feel like I want to know more about you... am I wrong? I don't think so. I don't want any weird fuglies on there ringing me up at any given moment!

Originally I probably had my net cast too far and too wide. With an age range from 34 to 42. (My ex was 43 when we split). Let me tell you, I swear some of the guys on there are blatantly lying about their ages! And don't even get me started on the 'old' photographs! One I saw the other day really took the biscuit - he had a picture on there of him at about 15. He was 39 for fucks sake! Then there are the guys (bless them) that look soooo much older than their 'real' ages. One guy, lovely as he probably was, contacted me. He was only 40 I think but he looked just about ready for his bus pass!

It was shortly after that I added "must have all own hair & teeth" to my profile. I don't want to look like I'm going out with my dad!

I don't think that makes me picky.

Anyhooos, since all this, I've narrowed my age range significantly from 34-36! haha, funny how you live and learn!

You do of course, occasionally find exceptions....... Wolves Wanderer came round on Tuesday night, he turned up with: pizza, salad, bottle of wine (nice one too!) and to finish strawberries & clotted cream! "Wow" I thought, "this is soooooooo gonna need working off!!" haha Now, it's an hours drive between his pad & my boudoir... and he had to be in work at 5am the next morning! Bless him, he still made the effort to get himself sorted (he's a well groomed individual), go shopping for the stuff and make his way over in time for me just getting home. And he cooked / sorted it all out. That a fair amount of effort in anyone's book! He's really aiming to please, it's very sweet and I think he's succeeding.

I still have my sticking point though  - about not being able to be in a relationship right now. I still think about my ex and how I'll ever learn to cope with those thoughts, I don't know - I guess that's a time thing. But I think I'm right in assuming that while I'm still pondering it, I'm not ready. I can still enjoy the nice things that are happening to me though, right? I think I'm ok doing that as long as I have the presence of mind to know and understand where I am with things. (I've made this as clear as I can to him). Crikey, I might have to move to another part of the country yet for work! Wolves Wanderer has told me how he feels though, he's even run it by me that he's classing himself as off the shelf right now. Which I must admit, feels kinda nice really. The numbers of texts have jumped significantly from around 20 to over 200 in a matter of a few days!

I think it's fair to say he's keen. Friends still tell me he's a 'keeper'.

He's coming over this weekend, so I hope I'll have plenty to look forward to...